So life has been… busy.
I know that’s not the best description to use when I believe that no one’s truly ever just “busy”. But rather, it’s an indication of their priorities—what and who are important to them that they would gladly set aside enough time for without finding it a burden.
Everything comes down to choices, based on priorities, so I’ve been keeping myself “busy” with work, social events like food tastings and just being around friends who understand the importance of presence. The type that would gladly sit together, work independently together in each other’s presence while not necessarily always interacting, but knowing there’s someone there. The support, it’s endearing.
“True friendship is sitting together in silence and feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.”
Choices also come with reasons—why
I choose work because it’s ultimately survival, to pay the bills and provide me with a comfortable life. I just so happen to be in a job/company that let’s me grow and learn new skills too. If I never joined, I wouldn’t have known a better work environment existed where I’m surrounded by truly smart and interesting minds where somehow everyone just seems to have a friendly vibe where I can let my guard down. It’s so nice for a change.
I choose to have side projects, it gives me space to learn, practice, develop into a better version of myself. If I never started Coffee & Cravings to build up my confidence, get out of my introvert shell and get to know a wider network of people… ultimately, I wouldn’t be in the job I’m in now, I wouldn’t have my best friends who take care of me and support (and feed) me, I wouldn’t know any better and would’ve just kept going down the path surrounded by negative people telling me not to ask for more in life and career because they were at their peak and couldn’t do better so encouraging someone else to be better was unfortunately out of the question. Side projects are a great way to self improve and get out of the 9–5 rut.
Now I choose social events, food tastings, outings. I guess this choice is not the most rewarding in terms of productivity and time. But for the time being, it’s a good distraction from destruction… till a new escapade comes along. Still in my antisocial phase and being very selective of the people I’m around. Or maybe it’s that I’ve chosen to let go of the negative, uninspiring people around me that don’t understand we all need to keep growing in life and helping others get ahead is as good as helping yourself get ahead.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ― Jim Rohn
Life… it’s full of choices that reflect priorities…
Like how I’m choosing to sit here writing this instead of sleeping or doing more important things. Because maybe when there’s no one to listen, having an outlet to quietly vent might just make me feel a little better. Maybe?